I'm a single swinger, will I be welcome? Swinging
is usually thought of as a couples activity. In some clubs they
have a strictly couples only policy. This is to keep the balance
fairly even, and to keep the activity primarily a couples event.
There are clubs that welcome women or men and some even hold specific
nights for singles.
Single females are always welcome in the swingers
scene, most of the time you can get into parties and clubs for
free. (If you are a single female, and would like to get into
swinging, then have a look at our meet
us page, we'll be gentle - honest). As a single female, make
sure you read the safety advice before arranging any meetings,
better to be safe than sorry.
If you're a single male, and by single we mean
not married (swingers don't like the idea of going behind your
partners back) then you will be welcome but you're in for a hard
time. This is simply because of the amount of single men trying
to get into swinging. If you'd like a head start against all the
other single men out there, then read Adams tips for single men
in my secure area. the tips have worked for other single men,
but be prepared for a lot of ground work. When you do finally
break into the scene, they'll be no stopping you. Remember to
read the advertisements, if they're not looking for single men,
for god's sake, don't email them, you're just wasting your time
and theirs.
Swinging in the UK is generally thought of as a
couples activity, where both people are aware of the others wishes,
they have discussed everything together, and love and trust each
other. They decide on there own rules and stick to them. Some
people get into the scene single but with their partners consent.
This is still classed as swinging, the other partner enjoys hearing
what the swinging partner gets up to. Other people get into the
scene without their partners knowledge, which is in effect cheating.
If you are truly single, fine, but if your relationship
is worth anything, and your partner doesn't know, think about
what could happen if they ever found out, is it worth it?. Always
be honest with others that you are meeting, to find out halfway
through a meeting the other person is cheating, isn't very nice.
A lot of couples won't have anything to do with someone who is
cheating so be honest, it can save a lot of time and aggravation
if it goes wrong.
I want to but my partner doesn't. How can i convince
my partner that swinging could be a fun thing to do? Experiment...have
fun...talk about things you would like to try with each other
first, then do it. Be creative, adventurous, and romantic.watch
adult movies, dress up, use toys, read erotic stories etc. Don't
pressure your partner into doing something they don't want to
do. You should be comfortable with each other, and trust each
other implicitly. Talk to each other, find out what you both like.
Respect your partner when they say NO.
Should I arrange a surprise meeting for my partner?
Unless you know your partner would like to try it, NO. It could
seriously damage your relationship if your partner isn't ready
to try it. They could think that you are doing it for yourself
and not taking thier feelings into account. Although if you have
talked about it, and your partner is up for it, then YES. But
make sure you know what your partner wants to do, whether it be
with another woman, another man, or both.The hallmarks of a relationship
involving swinging are love, trust, and honesty.
As with all swingers put your relationship with
your partner first and swinging second, if you want to have a
relationship left.
Luv Mel xxxx
