What is Dogging? dogging is the broad term used to cover all the sexual outdoor activities that go on. This can be anything from putting on a show from your car, to a gangbang on a picnic table. It all depends on what you're looking for. Dogging involves exhibitionism and voyeurism and this combination goes hand in hand. The voyeurs are mainly men and the exhibitionists are mainly couples or women who love to attract attention and often invite people to join in. Dogging is predominately something us British enjoy, the open air, countryside and carparks! Apparently the Belgians, French and Italians do it but not as obsessively as us Brits!

If you're thinking of going dogging for the first time, read these tips below, if you think I've missed anything, add it using the form at the bottom of the page. The tips on this page are mainly aimed at couples trying dogging for the first time. The tips are split into three sections, before, during and after the meet. If you're a single male, all the advice I've been given for males simply says be polite, don't be pushy and only do things you are invited to do. All the couples said that allowing males to join depended on how clean, polite and non pushy the males were.

Before the meet

Talk about it - If it's your first time dogging, then you need to talk about what you're looking to get out of it. It's easy for partner to get confused about how far to go. Talk to each other, decide what you're both comfortable doing, the last thing you want is to overstep your partners boundries.

Be prepared - It's helpful if you put together a small washing bag containing condoms (if the males haven't brought any), wet wipes and deodorant. These are just a few things which will make the meet go easier. Another thing which is helpful are the business cards you get out of the machines you find at service stations. A simple card with your swinging names, email address and even your mobile number will come in handy.

Advertising - Dogging can be a bit hit and miss, sometimes you can spend hours at a location and see no action at all. The way round this is to advertise on the dogging board. When you advertise, don't advertise the location you're going to or what time you're going. This will result in a mass of single men waiting for you, I've heard of this happening and the couple turned up to a group of 25 single men, way too many. All you need to include is the county you wish to meet in and the date of the meet. Then simply ask people to email you about the meet. Once you have the emails, you'll be able to choose who you want, and email them the details of the actual location and time. This should stop you being swamped.

During the meet

Safety - Before you arrive, make sure you move your bag / purse / wallet / anything valuble to a safe place like the glove box, it sounds silly, but would you want someone to know your full name and address? Lock all the doors from the inside, this will stop unwelcomed visitors and keep you in control of what goes on.

Signals - There's loads of signals that doggers use, the most common are flashing lights, these could be interior or exterior lights. This basically means they're doggers. Leaving the internal light on basically means we want to be watched. If they wind down the window, this means the they want to fondle / be fondled or more. If they want more, they tell you. Most doggers start with a show for the guys and then go further once they've picked the males that interest them. There are many more signals but most of these are really obvious, like flashing.

Too many males - If you're presented with the problem of too many males, the easiest thing to do is just ask them to back off. Most will comply with no problems, some don't. If they don't and can't take the message, simply say your going because of "that pushy bastard". Often the males watching will help remove the knobs, simply becuase they don't want their fun spoilt. If it's too much for you, just drive off.

After the meet

Ending it - A simple thank you to all the males that watched or took part in the fun is all that's needed. everyone will get the idea and say their goodbyes.

Cleaning up - A lot of the dogging locations are based around picnic or other public areas. Please make sure that any condoms or used tissues are put in the bin, or taken with you. Please do not litter, leaving used condoms around is a sure way of getting the area closed at night by the local council and isn't very nice for normal users of the area.

Keeping in touch - Remember those business cards, well if you find someone you'd like to meet again, you can give them your card to keep in touch if you want to.

Leaving - On heading home, make sure you do not take the direct route, go for a drive around for a little while. Just make sure that nobody has followed you home.

Talk - After it's done, you'll be high on the feeling, this is a good time to talk about what just happened. What you liked, what you didn't, what you want to do next time. As with all types of swinging, talking is the way to safeguard your relationship, remember that your relationship is far more important than a couple of hours fun.

That's all the advice I can give you at the moment, if you think I've missed something, use the form at the bottom of the page to send your comments to me. I'd like to thank Nigel & Patsy, Jules, DD, and Paul & Sam for helping me put this page together. If this advice helps you, please take the time to email me and let me know, it's nice to know people to appricate the effort it takes to write these advice pages, and if you would, I'd love some more dogging experiences for my erotica section.

This next bit was sent in by Christine from Tamworth and it covers clothing for dogging females.

After much hassle over the years and with the need to look sexy yet be able to get lost quick sometimes.

Top- I’ve found that a crop jacket with zip all I need for a top half – though in summer it something simple a cooler like a boob-tube works.

Bottom half - Short skirt no underwear for ease – maybe a pair of stay-up stockings.

Footware – this can actually be a nightmare and stiletto shoes or big platforms (although sexy) can be a real pain. The best thing I can ever suggest are kneeboots with a medium heel or lower – if a higher heel is worn, it’s better for the heel to be quite thick (never suede). If you are going to do a group thing on the ground - consider a slightly racier longer boot to
protect your knees. I once wore a pair of very high strppy things while being taken at both ends over a motor bike and burnt my damn legs – so boots are definitely the way to go – and the guys love them…bless

One final item that I sometimes wear depending on the situation - is a pair of gloves… if you are playing with many people in an evening , then these become very helpful indeed and can add a slightly fetish feel to everything. If buying leather ones, go for unlined and very tight, if you go for pvc ones – red looks better in the dark than black (oddly).

• Don’t wear earings!! Sharp nails hurt!!
• Mouth wash…. What can I say …
• Wet wipes – amazing what you can clean, even before you start lol… and kitchen role is better than tissues
• A blanket!!!!
• KY !!!!!!

Take care Christine

Hope this helps you have fun - Luv Mel xxxxx

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