We all use chatrooms at some point, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, but most of the time, we are unaware of the dangers related to cyber chatting. The first thing you must realise, is that there's no way to know who you are talking to, it maybe the partner of your dreams, or it maybe some spotty teenager.

Since you don't know who your talking to, never give out personal information, always use nicknames, never give out your home phone number, address, or passwords to sites. If you really want to give swingers a number use a mobile. You have no idea who will see transcripts of the chat session, its amazing what information people will give out when they think it's a private conversation, we've all done it. Over the course of a twenty minute conversation you can get names, rough addresses, phone numbers, sexual experiences and even photos, sexual or not. Be careful about what information you give out. Before you start chatting decide what information you are comfortable giving out, then write it down on a piece of paper keep it in front of you and don't give out anything other than what you've decided. It doesn't matter how well you are getting on at the time you don't really know who your talking to, or what their motives are.

Its always best if you send information like that via e-mail. When using e-mail's, always use a Hotmail address or something similar, you really don't want to give out your Internet service provider e-mail, especially if it goes along the lines of "david.jones@ukonline.net". If you decide to send photo's to someone you've been chatting to, make sure that they have your e-mail address right across the middle of it, if its a nude, make sure it covers the rudest bits. The reasons for this are two fold, first, it has been known for people to collect amateur photos in chatrooms for use on porn sites. The other reason is people can use you photos when chatting to others, having your e-mail address across your photos, you stop both of these things from happening.

If you're a couple make sure you're both comfortable with chatting. I think that it is important that if you are a couple, you should chat as a couple. Swinging is something you do as a couple and both partners should take an active role in the entire process from start to finish. The last thing you want is an argument because one partner has arranged a meet, or a phone call, and the other has had a hard day and its the first they have heard about it. Remember, swinging is something you do together.

Chatting on the net can be great fun, especially if you are new to it, just be careful, think, and do it together. Try always to be polite, don't pester people and if someone starts arguing with you they're trying to get attention, just ignore them don't respond in anyway. That includes everyone else in the chatroom, don't argue. Hope this helps to make your chatting more fun and more importantly - safe!

Safe chatting, Luv Mel xxx

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